Kevin
I note @DeProfundis has been quoting from Dr Gerard van den Aardweg. His book 'The Battle for Normality' was available on Amazon but it looks like they have banned him. However, it is still available at Ignatius Press here:- ignatius.com/…Battle-for-Normality-P165.aspx
DefendTruth
Actually, all of these stories of gay men are somehow similar. Troubles with the father. All about sex. Broken life: "In the course of my therapy I learned that my problem was not at all one of “sexual orientation” but of arrested personal growth. Others had progressed farther in developing their personalities. They had become men with a natural orientation toward the female sex. I, on the other …More
Actually, all of these stories of gay men are somehow similar. Troubles with the father. All about sex. Broken life: "In the course of my therapy I learned that my problem was not at all one of “sexual orientation” but of arrested personal growth. Others had progressed farther in developing their personalities. They had become men with a natural orientation toward the female sex. I, on the other hand, had remained a mere boy: unsure of himself, lacking courage, with a placid temperament — the type that doesn’t like to dirty his hands, who never thrusts himself into the forefront, preferring to remain inconspicuous."
truechristianity.info/en/articles/article0136.php
De Profundis
Homosexuals seems to exaggerate self-pity and sentimentality. They portray themselves as perpetual victims — to the point of theatricality and according to van den Aardweg, it is precisely on these feelings that the engine of the homosexual drives, the inferiority complex, rests.
De Profundis
Homosexual relationships are by nature short-lived, says van den Aardweg. This is because of the infantilism that underlies homosexuality: "Infantile fantasy is a peculiar form of fantasy. It is a fantasy of seeking. It can never be satisfied. It goes more or less like this: Ah, if only I had a good friend. The complaint constantly comes back like a refrain. You don’t love me as my first friend …More
Homosexual relationships are by nature short-lived, says van den Aardweg. This is because of the infantilism that underlies homosexuality: "Infantile fantasy is a peculiar form of fantasy. It is a fantasy of seeking. It can never be satisfied. It goes more or less like this: Ah, if only I had a good friend. The complaint constantly comes back like a refrain. You don’t love me as my first friend did. The complaints and laments go on until he finds another Friend who is more beautiful. Homosexual love is not love, but a yearning, an insatiable desire. It is a yearning characteristic of adolescence. When we go into it more deeply, we show it up for the impoverished feeling that it is. What comes to light is that the homosexual is doing this for himself alone. He seeks love and sincerity from someone else. It is not a true, mature form of love, which consists not only in accepting but also in the giving of oneself — sacrificing oneself for another. That is why homosexual love is false."
Tesa
At least he is young. One of the most talked-about problems is the loneliness of aging homosexuals. Gay unions, they complain, are based almost exclusively on sex. As a result, aging homosexuals, who no longer have a young and beautiful body, have no chance of forming close relationships. All they can do is buy sex from young men, who cannot be counted on to provide emotional warmth and support …More
At least he is young. One of the most talked-about problems is the loneliness of aging homosexuals. Gay unions, they complain, are based almost exclusively on sex. As a result, aging homosexuals, who no longer have a young and beautiful body, have no chance of forming close relationships. All they can do is buy sex from young men, who cannot be counted on to provide emotional warmth and support in old age.
De Profundis
According to Dr. van den Aardweg, homosexuality is an emotional disorder developed during childhood and adolescence. “The chief factor underlying the male homosexual complex” he observes, “is a lack of identification with the father or a distant or dysfunctional relationship with him. The paternal factor is often a ‘psychologically absent father.’ He may be present, but if he is an older man, or …More
According to Dr. van den Aardweg, homosexuality is an emotional disorder developed during childhood and adolescence. “The chief factor underlying the male homosexual complex” he observes, “is a lack of identification with the father or a distant or dysfunctional relationship with him. The paternal factor is often a ‘psychologically absent father.’ He may be present, but if he is an older man, or insufficiently fatherly or masculine, then he is effectively absent and becomes a ‘psychologically absent father.’
“The other significant factor is the mother, who should always refrain from over-coddling and excessive solicitude. When a mother is over-concerned with her boy, is too close to him, has a tendency to control him, is quick and active, does everything for him, she undercuts his initiative.
“This maternal factor can result in the boy underdeveloping his sense of boyhood. When both these factors — father and mother — converge in a family, there is likelihood that the boy will feel inadequate among his peers. In a world of boys he will stand apart.
“There are other factors involved, such as the boy’s position in the family, his relationship with his siblings, and how he sees his body. My patients often complain about physical problems they faced as boys: stuttering, obesity, and other traits, which they perceived as defects. Another factor is their manner of rearing, for example by grandparents.
“All these factors cause the boy to feel out of his element among his friends. They are too rough for him. They have manners that he does not understand. Statistically, homosexuals as boys rarely engage in boyish scrapping or take part in sports such as football, soccer, baseball or hockey, though it is unclear if this is because they don’t know how or if they were afraid of losing or being hurt. It is here that an inferiority complex takes root. The above-mentioned factors set the stage for what happens to the boy in adolescence, that is, from the ages of 10-12 to 16. It is only then that these disparate factors begin to converge. A boy who does not feel part of the group, who feels uncomfortable and out of his element in a man’s world, is susceptible to a range of complexes.
“Something occurs to a prepubescent or adolescent boy who is unable to make friendships, who feels more at ease in the company of girls, who is afraid of his peers, especially if he withdraws into himself and begins nursing a desire for a friend. He may have someone in mind. He begins to notice that his friend has something he lacks, something that makes him popular — courage, masculine looks, physical prowess. Meanwhile, he feels he lacks these qualities. He is not well built, etc. This is where an inferiority complex begins to assert itself. The boy feels he is not up to the mark. He is not as good looking. Above all, his masculinity is in question. So he begins to admire his friend from a distance
and desire him. With the onset of adolescence these fantasies to have a friend begin to take on an erotic character. These erotic feelings go hand in hand with an intense sense of worship. One might even call it a form of idolatry, a divinization of someone else’s masculinity. This may only be childish wonder, but it can be very strong, and the greater the feeling of loneliness and inferiority the more powerful the wonder gets. Thus the desire grows. The final point is habit. Habit brings two things together: desire for the divinized person and self-pity, or what I call ‘autodramatization.’ By this I mean an exaggerated playing up of one’s hurt and pain. The complex is thus reinforced. This invariably happens in the pre-homosexualization phase of a given individual.
“Every adult homosexual indulges in a measure of self-pity. This constant, unconscious emotion stems not so much from his homosexuality as from a sense that he is not a man like others. Since his youth he feels he has been excluded from the circle of his peers. This he interprets as discrimination. He represents the persecuted poor. This is the official gay position — that homosexuals are poor victims. It resonates nicely with their infantile fantasies. It suits them perfectly because homosexuals have always felt outside the group. Hence this desire for a friend, this search for an ideal Male. One might say that homosexuals are fascinated by masculinity.”
P. O'B
Thank you for this very enlightening post.
Eva
It is more interesting to see a Saint's life written by God - like here (St Joseph Vaz - Apostle of Sri Lanka) than just another boring sinner whose lifes are always more of the same.
Cuthbert Mayne
Well said
De Profundis
His own presentation on facebook - looks somehow helpless to me.
beth alice arrow
poor soul
Miles - Christi
Oh, my God! Let's pray for this poor man... Ave Maria!
De Profundis
Van den Aardweg has discovered the following interesting relationship: the less one focuses on oneself, the less susceptible one is to homosexual tendencies.
DefendTruth
Palmquist on Facebook:

"And what would have happened if I died?
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My crisis had reached such a point that food lost its flavor. From the moment of rising in the morning, I was waiting for the night to return.
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This was my “dark night” of the soul.
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That’s what I believed.
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God was “BLESSING ME” by removing my belief in him. That I had to just buckle down and grit my teeth and continue...
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I …More
Palmquist on Facebook:

"And what would have happened if I died?
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My crisis had reached such a point that food lost its flavor. From the moment of rising in the morning, I was waiting for the night to return.
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This was my “dark night” of the soul.
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That’s what I believed.
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God was “BLESSING ME” by removing my belief in him. That I had to just buckle down and grit my teeth and continue...
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I kept trying to maintain the “correct” perspective.
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I tried to believe that God really cared and knew what he was doing.
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I tried... but I was dying."
Prayhard
The CM piece on him is largely a work of fiction. He doesn't a tattoo parlour, though he wishes he did.
De Profundis
CM tries to fit everything in their narrative of the SSPX as homosexual society.
DefendTruth
Palmquist's Mexican boy-friend on the picture brought to attention by Niles was annoyed about being exposed like that.
Tesa
Palmquist's story represent a big part of the hierarchy. Closed community in the 50s. Mum had the vocation. The gay boys didn't want to marry and became unhappy, masturbating priests. They looked for more in their lives - and tried to become bishops and cardinals - and maybe a pope. Filled everything with their images.
Hugh N. Cry
Spot on
Elkam Elkam
Worse things have happened:
youtube.com/watch?v=QcBx0TMMIfE